This month, I did something I rarely do; I bought a Cosmopolitan magazine. Don’t get me wrong, I love to read, (books) and occasional magazines but I find myself having no interest in the trashy gossip magazines and some of the like. However, when I travel sometimes as I pass by a magazine stand and a cover catches my eye or a specific topic I’ll pick one up for my flight.
Which leads me to my latest topic for Just Jamie. The title of the article was “Why So Many Men are Suckers for Skanks.” Now this wasn’t the original article that prompted me to buy Cosmopolitan but as I was perusing the magazine I came across this article. The general vibe of this sad piece of journalism was that all women who have fake boobs or any other enhanced features were ignorantly dubbed “skanks.” Claiming men are inherently attracted and drawn to women who fit into the prehistoric ideas of sexuality and exaggerated feminine features. Implying that these particular women mentioned in this article would have nothing else going for them if it weren’t for their enhanced cup size. This article also claimed that men only are attracted to these women because they represent the epitome of what their “normal wives or girlfriends” don’t, and that men can feel freer to ask for “taboo” sex acts or be disrespectful with a woman who has these types of enhancements. I’m sorry, but are we still living in the 40s? I thought we were a bit more evolved than the ridiculous notion that if a woman enjoys her sexuality or embraces sex and feeling good that she is a “skank?” Since when is it acceptable to condone disrespect of any woman based on what she looks like?
Of course men are attracted to sexy women who embrace their sexuality! What’s not attractive about that? Perhaps, the women that are so worried about their men being attracted to women who enjoy being and looking like women, could stand to learn a thing or two about their own sexuality! There are plenty of beautiful women who are sexy and enjoy sex that are also successful, smart and much more than just a pretty face with a nice rack. Myself included. Perhaps, this article hit a little close to home. Being a model and being conscious about my physical appearance is an extremely important part of my life but, it in no way, shape or form defines who I am as a person, a woman, business owner, lover, friend, daughter or sister.
I am offended by the notion that women can’t be sexual, and aware of it and still be admired as an individual, instead of an object or categorized as a “skank.” It’s ludicrous! I have been fighting this battle my whole life. Walking the line between being able to be myself and enjoy being beautiful and sexual with being able to relate to other women who perhaps aren’t quite as fortunate in the looks department. Not because, I have a hard time being friends with them, but because women seem to have such an issue being friends with women who are beautiful and sexually attractive to the opposite sex. There are always exceptions to the rule, but in my experience this is usually the case. As the age old adage says, “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover.” I find more and more men and women who are intimidated by my appearance or don’t take me seriously in business because of the way I look. I have news for those of you who feel this way; I thrive on being underestimated! There is not much that get’s me more motivated to succeed and kick ass in my endeavors then people thinking I can’t, merely because of what I look like. Sometimes, in life your biggest competition is the one that you constantly underestimate.
As with any stereotype there are always exceptions to the rule. Of course there are women whom enhance their physical attributes and would probably fit under the definition of a “skank” although, I am not a huge fan of that particular word the meaning seems fairly obvious. However, with that said, there are the women who have enhanced physical attributes who would not fall into such a pathetic, small minded category as the one mentioned above.
Statistics repeatedly show the increase in many different types of plastic surgery across the country. So after reading that article in Cosmo should one assume all of these people are then “skanks?” Not only did this lame attempt at stereotyping just perpetuate the very thing that women have been trying to change for centuries, it also perpetuates the petty jealousy among women. When what women should be doing is supporting one another. There are far more important things to worry about and focus your energy on, than who’s had the latest procedure done. In my not so humble opinion, women could channel that jealous energy into improving their own lives, sexuality and appearance and maybe, just maybe, come to understand how great it feels to be and feel like a sexy, beautiful woman…perhaps, improving their relationships with the men in their lives all at the same time!